true colors

It's a fact that you figure out who your true friends are once you have had a baby.

People who attack you and try to make you feel bad because you haven't called or kept in touch are not real friends. If they were, they would know that you are most likely very busy with your newborn. They would give you a break rather than send you harassing messages over Facebook accusing you of being selfish and not putting effort into the friendship. Those people have no lives whatsoever, which is obvious, since they are staying up until all hours of the night losing sleep while sending you these messages. Normal people sleep at that time, unless you are a new mom and happen to be up feeding your baby. I don't have time for those people.

People who seem to find a way to negatively respond to every positive thing you say or do are not your friends. Putting a smiley face after your comment doesn't mean what you are saying is nice. Do you know what it means to be passive aggressive? It's a devious, diabolical way of conveying your anger, disappointment, or hurt to someone without actually speaking to them about it. Your feelings may be acted out by the way you treat them and also by talking to other people about the person. It's unfortunate that I have "friends" like this, and I don't know why I bother to keep them in my life. Lately, I am reminded more and more that I just need to downsize the people in my life and only leave room for the people who are going to add something positive. It's difficult to do that though. It has gotten to the point where I don't know how to go about it anymore. But I can't have toxic people in my life anymore. I can't have people in my life that make me feel bad all the time. It's emotionally draining, and I have a baby to take care of, and she deserves my energy. Not these people who obviously have no regard for my feelings.

People don't mature with age. I'm learning that. Some people will always be spiteful and immature and petty. I need to just be the one to make the decision not to let it affect me any longer. It's easier said than done. I've gotten rid of one person today. I am hoping that helps a little and I am hoping she leaves me alone. I said some mean things. I'm not entirely proud of it, but she deserved it. That's when you know the person is toxic.... when they bring out the worst in you.

And stop comparing my daughter to your stupid dog. My baby's name is Sofia. I call her Sofie for short. I don't give two shits if your dog is "your baby" and your dog's name is Sophie. Stop comparing your stupid dog to my child whenever I post pictures or talk about something new that my baby is doing. And stop joking about how I must have named my baby after your dog. You are stupid and every time you open your mouth I want to hurt you a little more.